by LaRae Quy
Lead Yourself
Leading From Strength
Stop Complacency
1. Create an Inner Circle
2. Find a Mentor
3. Look for Adventure
I spent over twenty years working
as both an FBI undercover and counterintelligence agent.
My job was to identify foreign spies who
were operating in the United States, find out what they were stealing and stop
them, assess whether they possessed the type of information the U.S. needed,
and if they did, find ways to persuade them to work for our government.
I share the lessons I learned about
surviving in an environment of deception, hostility, and fear.
"Coincidentally, these
same conditions also exist in business and life."
If you are going to survive in today's
world, you will need to learn how to navigate through the smoke and mirrors
that create confusion in investments, marketing, and relationships.
Lead Yourself
The first person we need to lead is
ourselves. We do this by leading with personal strength rather than a plan.
Powerful leaders are empowered from within.
Plans fail because people are not
predictable and we have very little control over our environment. Survival
depends upon flexibility, breaking through barriers, and accepting new
challenges.
"Complacency will lead
to extinction."
FBI defensive tactics trained us to always
lead with our strong side. I'm right-handed and both my right hand and leg are
stronger than my left. We were taught us that if we lead with our strong side,
it's easier to stay on balance when confronted with the unknown and we're
better poised to react in a way that could save our life.
"We are more vulnerable
when we're approached from a weakness or blind spot."
Leading From Strength
Instead of sending us to the gym everyday
to build up the muscles on our weak side, we spent our time learning how to
lead most efficiently from our place of strength. This meant that we had to
know our weaknesses and manage them as best we could while relying upon our
strengths for survival.
"Complacency is toxic
because it is a stealth attitude that creeps up on us without our awareness. It
makes us vulnerable because we've unconsciously let our guard down and are no
longer alert to the nature of threats that surround aspects of business or
aspects and life."
When this happens, we're no longer
operating from our center, from that place of strength that gives us balance.
Complacency can often be a subconscious need to re-evaluate our goals, mission,
or vision.
Stop Complacency
Here are three ways to prevent you from
becoming complacent in your business, leadership role, and life:
1. Create an Inner Circle
We all have an inner circle of close
friends, family, and others we interact with on a regular basis. To maximize
their impact on your life, ask yourself whether they are the right people with
whom you want closer interaction.
By forging your inner circle with
intention, you can collect people who reflect back your full potential.
- Collect people who see the best
in you and believe in your dreams for yourself.
- Eliminate people who take
advantage of your generous nature.
- Discard those who ask for more
than their fair share.
- Protect yourself and fill your
life with people whose values match your own.
- Surround yourself with people
who accept your gifts, in return.
2. Find a Mentor
There are few people more valuable than
mentors. They should be inspirational; more importantly, they need to be able
to see and accept you for who you really are.
They need to encourage you to keep charging
ahead, keep chasing your dreams, and keep making plans.
"Mentoring fills us with
hope."
Fill in the following sentences:
- A great mentor in my life is
______________________
- I could be a mentor
to___________________________
- I am inspired by
_______________________________
3. Look for Adventure
Adventure is about taking risks, large and
small, and this requires enthusiasm. It means stepping out into the unknown to
discover your full potential.
Staying open to new experiences is a daily
adventure because you don't know what you'll find in those new experiences.
Maybe you'll discover that you want to do something different, that you want to
write a mission statement, or have a new vision for your life.
"Complacency and
adventure cannot co-exist."
Fill in the following sentences:
- It would be fun to
_____________________
- I would like to try
_____________________
- I would step out of my comfort
zone by ___________________
You must learn to lead yourself before you
can lead others and this can only happened if you are empowered from within.
The world provides enough deception and isolation—don't worry about being afraid
of the unknown. It's the complacency that will kill you.
When was the last time you thought about
the quality of your inner circle? How are you a mentor to others? What was your
last adventure?
The Author Profile
LaRae Quy uses the skills she
learned as a counterintelligence FBI agent to empower others to find deeper
meaning for both life and work. She has spent her career studying the inner
disciplines of human thought and behavior. In exposing foreign spies and
recruiting them to work for the U.S. Government, she was a catalyst in helping
people live their life in bigger, better, and bolder ways. You may visit her
websiite at http://www.laraequy.com/
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