It is too easy to get
into a negative mindset which invariably leads to unhappiness and depression.
To avoid being overwhelmed by negativity we need to make a conscious effort to
avoid the experience. When life seems like a perpetual dark tunnel these are
some suggestions to change your outlook on life.
Don't Cherish
Destructive Thoughts.
Often we don’t realise
how much we subconsciously cherish negative thoughts. It may seem counter
intuitive, but often a negative frame of mind occurs because we won't let go of
the negative thoughts and ideas. Sometimes the mind clings on to these thoughts
with a feeling of self pity or injured pride. We don’t like the negative frame
of mind, but at the same time are we consciously trying to overcome it? The
problem is that if the negative thoughts go round and round in our mind they
can become powerful and we lose a sense of perspective. Just make a conscious
decision to ignore the negative flow of thoughts and sentiments and be
persistent in these attempts.
Do You want to be Happy
or Miserable?
We should feel a
negative mindset is a choice. If we feel a victim to our own emotions and
thoughts, nobody else will be able to help us. We should feel that by holding
on to a negative frame of mind, we are inevitably choosing to be unhappy; each
negative is a conscious decision to be miserable. If we really value the importance
of our own inner peace and happiness, we will aspire to cultivate this through
good, uplifting thoughts. Next time you feel the onset of a depressed state of
mind, just ask yourself the question: Do I want to be happy or Miserable?
Spend Time With Positive
People
The best antidote to
negativity is simply to spend time doing positive, uplifting activities.
Sometimes if we analyse and examine our own negativity it does nothing to
reduce it. By engaging in useful fun activities, we forget about the reasons
for our negativity; this is often the most powerful way to overcome a depressed
state of mind.
Don't Accept Negativity
from Other People
We live in a world
where there are no shortage of pessimists, critics and doomongers. There will
always be people who can find the negative in life; but, there is no reason why
we have to ascribe to their world view. For example, often in an office
environment there is a negative attitude to the workplace, but, even if there
are faults and limitations we don't have to allow them to make us a negative
person.
Let Go of Thoughts
If you can learn to
control your thoughts, you can control the experience and emotions of life. The
best antidote to negativity is learning the art of meditation. Meditation is
more than just relaxation; it is a change in consciousness. We move from the
limited perspective of our mind and discover an inner source of happiness.
Live in the Heart
The nature of the mind
is to be suspicious and critical. If someone does 99 good things and 1 bad
thing, the mind will invariably remember the bad thing. If we allow ourselves
to be drawn into highlighting the mistakes of others we will invite a negative
mindset. However, if we live in the heart we are not drawn to the faults of
others (even if they are insignificant). It is in the heart that we can have a
true sense of oneness with others, their faults seem insignificance and we can
feel a sense of identity with the achievements of others.
Don't Sit Around Doing
Nothing
The worst thing for a
negative frame of mind is to mope around feeling sorry for ourselves.
Ruminating on our bad luck / worries / fears will not diminish them in any way.
Exercise can be a powerful way to bring about a new consciousness. Negativity
is often associated with boredom and lack of purpose. Stop endlessly checking
emails and surfing web, look for something good to do.
Force Yourself to Think
of 3 Positive Thoughts.
If you are feeling
really miserable and have a low sense of self esteem, try thinking of 3 good
things that you have done. At time our own mind can be our worst enemy and very
self critical. It is important not to lose a sense of balance; for the various
bad things we have done, we have also done some good things.
Don't Think Anything
You Wouldn't Say in Front of People
We often think things
we would never say in front of people. If you are annoyed, disappointed with
someone else, imagine what you would say to them in person. Sometimes when we
are with people we are forced to behave; even if we are not particularly sincere
the effort to avoid negativity can help us to overcome our bad mood.
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